Three-year-old HayJae invited me (rather commandingly) to join her in building a giant Lego tower. Each time I would add something to the tower, HayJae would take it off and reposition it, or tell me, "No, Grama, it doesn't go like that." Finally I decided not to place anymore blocks on the tower and began building one of my own to attach to hers later. HayJae informed, "Grama, you are suppose to help me build a tower. You know? Like they tell us at church. We are workers together. It is in the Bible."
"Yeah, well, you aren't letting me work with you."
"Yes I am. You just need to work with me, like they tell us at the church." I want you to know, this was hilarious. I'd add, she'd dismantle. I'd try another Lego in another way and she'd remove it. Again and again, over and over, HayJae rejected my efforts. I offered to just hand her the blocks, but she wanted me to "work together" to build it. I was in a quandry as to what she wanted from me.
"For we are fellow workmen (joint promoters, laborers together) with and for God; you are God's garden and vineyard and field under cultivation, [you are] God's building." 1 Corinthians 3:9
HayJae's insistance to build the tower her way eliminated any opportunity I had to help. It also destroyed the desire for me to help. It wasn't fun. I could have added a great deal of expertise to the Lego tower: bridges, ramps, extensions. And I am certain HayJae sincerely wanted me to be a part of the experience. Yet, her penchant for controlling her little world circumvented the help I could give, or the joy we could have in the end product. I wonder.
Do we get so controlling over the vision we have for a tower that we unwittingly reject the help we want from fellow Christians? Does our criticism of their efforts create defeat in their spirit? Does our insistance on our way to micro-manage the projects that it leaves no room for the gifts and insights of others? Can we truly be laborers together if we are not willing to allow others to help us? to delegate responsibilities? and then be satisfied with the other's efforts---even if they aren't exactly like what we had imagined? selahV
[copyrighted, SelahV Today, 2008]