Whoever said "silence is golden"? Silence is not golden. It's more like rust slowly eating away at a person's mind and soul. Conversation, communication, discussion-- those are golden. Silence can, very often, be a roadblock.
I googled the phrase "silence is golden" and discovered it dated back to a "16th century proverb, now defunct: "Silence is a woman's best garment."
I'm guessing someone during the Renaissance Period was doing their own take on the Biblical Proverbs 25:24 "Better to live on the corner of a roof than to share a house with a nagging wife."
Yes, that's in the Bible, and as chauvenistically prejudicial as it may sound, I agree with it. To live with someone who nag, nag, nags you day in and day out, would cause a Floridian saint to seek retreat on the top of Mount Everest in the middle of Winter.
However, I do I understand why some otherwise genteel women turn into nagging hags and can't let go of an issue. When they've asked once and a request goes unanswered-- a woman can get a bit annoyed. After the second and third request is ignored, or a promise is never kept, she can get downright testy. After 4 bites at the apple, she may even get bullish or become a fire-breathing dragon-lady. Yep, I can see how this proverb works both ways. Some folks see it as cautionary advice to the wife to not be a nagging hag so her husband doesn't want to retreat to the rooftop to get some peace. Still, others might see it as cautionary warning to a husband to honor his wife by fulfilling a request, or meeting her need BEFORE she gets to the point of nagging. Either way, someone is going to be one unhappy camper.
Silence may be the "woman's best garment", but if the hubby wants her to wear that garment of silence and live in peace, it behooves him to help make it happen and maybe stop procrastinating.
But, hey... that's just me talking. That's just me spouting off. I know a few women who've simply taken matters into their own hands and did the job themselves (I've moved some pretty heavy furniture in my day), or mangled the job (oh, that time I tried to paint the ceiling), or spent a fortune getting someone else to do the job for them (when I had to retile that kitchen and covered it in sticky goo). I didn't have to say a word, but in the end, hubby paid for it.
One area where silence is golden is when it is accompanied by, or alludes to, a promise from God. When I'm in a quandary and face a dilemna, and I think I need to keep my mouth shut about a given situation, I rely rather heavily on "Wait upon the Lord", "Trust in the Lord, Lean not to my own understanding", be patient, and let God move the mountains for me. I can't tell you how many times in my 66 years I've had to let go and let God deal with my heartache, angst, obstacle, or calamity. In those times, I've come to rest in Psalms 138:8--"The Lord will perfect that which concerneth me". And when I'm tempted to nag, needle, or perpetuate and defend my position, I rest in Exodus 14:14--- "The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.”
That, my friends, ain't easy. When you are an opinionated, rather decisive and cut-to-the-chase, getter-done kind of person like myself, it's nearly impossible. I've got a scarred tongue to prove how many times I've had to bite it.
So while silence in many situations is more than beneficial, in other situations it can be stifling and harmful. Silence can suppress ideas, eliminate solutions, and destroy relationships. It can limit possibilities, prolong agonies, and build walls that are impenetrable. Oh for greater wisdom and distinct discernment. Oh, for a tongue that works on auto-pilot, one that knows when to cruise and when to let 'er fly.